Tag: narcissistic trauma
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Narcissistic Control and Using a Child to Get It
People see a turned-off phone and think it’s just a phone. But when communication has been repeatedly controlled, limited, or used as leverage, it stops being about technology. It becomes about access. It becomes about control. Most people think control looks like yelling, threats, or obvious abuse. Sometimes it looks much quieter than that. Sometimes…
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Financial Abuse After Divorce Doesn’t Always Look Financial
Financial abuse after divorce is not always about money. Sometimes it is about control through silence, instability, withheld communication, and forced emotional labor. The hardest part is often not the expense itself. It is the exhaustion of constantly adapting to someone else’s chaos while trying to protect your child and keep your own peace intact.
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The Cost of Hate—and Choosing Peace Without Forgiveness
Hate is something many of us feel after abuse—but what if letting go of hate doesn’t mean you have to forgive? For a long time, I believed those two things went hand in hand. If I stopped hating him, didn’t that mean I had to forgive him too? I don’t believe that anymore. In my…
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What It’s Really Like to Co-Parent with a Narcissist
Ever wondered what having a narcissistic co-parent is like? Let me tell you—it’s a constant battle. The Never-Ending Struggle: Unpaid Medical Bills Let’s start with something simple: unpaid medical bills.Per our divorce decree and parenting plan, all medical expenses are to be shared. Sly is responsible for 70% of them. The court document is clear—it…
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Understanding Narcissistic Abuse This Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Narcissistic Abuse and Domestic Violence Awareness Month This post is being written in observance of National Domestic Violence Awareness Month—also known as National Domestic Abuse Awareness Month. For those of you who have followed my blogs, you know how much I advocate for recognizing the non-visible signs of abuse—the mental, emotional, and verbal abuse that…
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Finding Hope After Narcissistic Abuse: A Survivor’s Guide
Let’s Talk About Hope Hope. Such a small word, yet it carries a weight that can change the course of a life. By definition, hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for something good to happen. It’s more than just wishful thinking — it’s a belief, a conviction, that something better is possible. To…
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A Narcissist’s Image
There was a post a wrote a while back about a narcissist and their flying monkeys. Often, I refer to anyone who believes a narcissist’s lies, and shuns the narcissist’s victim, as one of their flying monkeys. Sly probably has more flying monkeys than dollars in the bank… and he makes very good money. A…
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Surviving Narcissism: Navigating Lies and Delusions
Is it lying or is it being completely delusional? First, let’s look at the definitions of both of these terms. According to the good ol’ Merriam Webster online dictionary, lying is defined as “marked by or containing untrue statements: false”. I’m pretty sure all of us know what a lie is. The definition of delusion…
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Healing and Regaining Ourself
This post is going to deviate a little bit from my other posts thus far. As a victim of narcissistic abuse there are a number of emotional and physical things our bodies and minds go through as we embark on the healing process. The time abused by a narcissist varies and every situation is different,…
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What is Trauma?
According to the definition, trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience. It can also be some type of physical injury. I am certain that most people, young and old, have experienced some sort of trauma in their life. A death of a loved one, an accident, physical abuse, witnessing a natural disaster, witnessing war…
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