Tag: victim
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What to Say to Your Child After a Narcissistic Parent Tears Them Down (And How to Repair the Emotional Damage)
One of the most painful parts of co-parenting with a narcissistic parent isn’t always the big moments. It’s the small comments that land like needles. A criticism about their appearance.A dismissive remark about something they’re proud of.A minimizing statement about their feelings.A negative opinion delivered like a verdict. Your child comes home quieter. Or defensive.…
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What It’s Really Like to Co-Parent with a Narcissist
Ever wondered what having a narcissistic co-parent is like? Let me tell you—it’s a constant battle. The Never-Ending Struggle: Unpaid Medical Bills Let’s start with something simple: unpaid medical bills.Per our divorce decree and parenting plan, all medical expenses are to be shared. Sly is responsible for 70% of them. The court document is clear—it…
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Understanding Narcissistic Abuse This Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Narcissistic Abuse and Domestic Violence Awareness Month This post is being written in observance of National Domestic Violence Awareness Month—also known as National Domestic Abuse Awareness Month. For those of you who have followed my blogs, you know how much I advocate for recognizing the non-visible signs of abuse—the mental, emotional, and verbal abuse that…
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Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: A Struggle for Control
When Co-Parenting With a Narcissist Becomes a Battle Over Control You all know that when I sit down to write a blog post, it usually means something has happened with Sly. And honestly, it’s not just a one-time thing—it’s a repeated pattern. This time, it revolves around the parenting app we’re court ordered to use.…
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Finding Hope After Narcissistic Abuse: A Survivor’s Guide
Let’s Talk About Hope Hope. Such a small word, yet it carries a weight that can change the course of a life. By definition, hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for something good to happen. It’s more than just wishful thinking — it’s a belief, a conviction, that something better is possible. To…
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A Narcissist’s Image
There was a post a wrote a while back about a narcissist and their flying monkeys. Often, I refer to anyone who believes a narcissist’s lies, and shuns the narcissist’s victim, as one of their flying monkeys. Sly probably has more flying monkeys than dollars in the bank… and he makes very good money. A…
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Signs Your Child May Need Therapy After Narcissistic Abuse
I know I’ve written quite a bit about Chloe lately and the things that she’s going through with Sly as her father. In this particular post, I’m going to write about a few scenarios that have taken place lately. It is one of the hardest things I’ve had to do as her mother to watch…
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Understanding Gaslighting: A Child’s Experience
In my past posts I’ve written quite a bit about gaslighting. Today, I’m going to tell you about something that happened last night, and a perfect example of what it is when a narcissist gaslights their own child. First, let’s revisit what gaslighting is. Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse that manipulates the victim…
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Understanding Narcissism: Impact on Children
I couldn’t think of a better title for this post today. Quite a bit has happened recently, and I’m going to write about these events. I’m also going to write about some of the research I’ve done about how a narcissist treats their children, and why. The stories contained in this post are factual, but…
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Surviving Narcissism: Navigating Lies and Delusions
Is it lying or is it being completely delusional? First, let’s look at the definitions of both of these terms. According to the good ol’ Merriam Webster online dictionary, lying is defined as “marked by or containing untrue statements: false”. I’m pretty sure all of us know what a lie is. The definition of delusion…
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Using a Child as a Pawn / When a Child Becomes a Victim
I’m sure there’s a better title than that… but today’s post is going to be about how a narcissist uses their own flesh and blood to get what they want and to make themselves look better, or to make others look bad. I’m going to discuss and share with you a few of the recent…
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Healing and Regaining Ourself
This post is going to deviate a little bit from my other posts thus far. As a victim of narcissistic abuse there are a number of emotional and physical things our bodies and minds go through as we embark on the healing process. The time abused by a narcissist varies and every situation is different,…
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What is Lost
Not a question, but a statement of what we lose when we go through a separation of any sort from a narcissist. There are losses in any divorce or ending of a relationship, sure. In those cases, you usually lose money, some friends and family on your ex’s side, time with your kids due to…
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A Victim’s Experience
A Victim’s Experience… Just a few of the things I have personally and recently experienced.
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Mediation to the Final Divorce Hearing
Everything was an argument. I spent most of my days trying to explain things to him, and why he was wrong or hurtful. The hits from him just kept coming. Looking back on all of the messages, it does bring back a bit of the anxiety, anger and helplessness that I felt years ago. Narcissists…
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