Tag: trauma
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What It’s Really Like to Co-Parent with a Narcissist
Ever wondered what having a narcissistic co-parent is like? Let me tell you—it’s a constant battle. The Never-Ending Struggle: Unpaid Medical Bills Let’s start with something simple: unpaid medical bills.Per our divorce decree and parenting plan, all medical expenses are to be shared. Sly is responsible for 70% of them. The court document is clear—it…
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Understanding Narcissistic Abuse This Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Narcissistic Abuse and Domestic Violence Awareness Month This post is being written in observance of National Domestic Violence Awareness Month—also known as National Domestic Abuse Awareness Month. For those of you who have followed my blogs, you know how much I advocate for recognizing the non-visible signs of abuse—the mental, emotional, and verbal abuse that…
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Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: A Struggle for Control
When Co-Parenting With a Narcissist Becomes a Battle Over Control You all know that when I sit down to write a blog post, it usually means something has happened with Sly. And honestly, it’s not just a one-time thing—it’s a repeated pattern. This time, it revolves around the parenting app we’re court ordered to use.…
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Finding Hope After Narcissistic Abuse: A Survivor’s Guide
Let’s Talk About Hope Hope. Such a small word, yet it carries a weight that can change the course of a life. By definition, hope is a feeling of expectation and desire for something good to happen. It’s more than just wishful thinking — it’s a belief, a conviction, that something better is possible. To…
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A Narcissist’s Image
There was a post a wrote a while back about a narcissist and their flying monkeys. Often, I refer to anyone who believes a narcissist’s lies, and shuns the narcissist’s victim, as one of their flying monkeys. Sly probably has more flying monkeys than dollars in the bank… and he makes very good money. A…
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Signs Your Child May Need Therapy After Narcissistic Abuse
I know I’ve written quite a bit about Chloe lately and the things that she’s going through with Sly as her father. In this particular post, I’m going to write about a few scenarios that have taken place lately. It is one of the hardest things I’ve had to do as her mother to watch…
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Understanding Gaslighting: A Child’s Experience
In my past posts I’ve written quite a bit about gaslighting. Today, I’m going to tell you about something that happened last night, and a perfect example of what it is when a narcissist gaslights their own child. First, let’s revisit what gaslighting is. Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse that manipulates the victim…
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Surviving Narcissism: Navigating Lies and Delusions
Is it lying or is it being completely delusional? First, let’s look at the definitions of both of these terms. According to the good ol’ Merriam Webster online dictionary, lying is defined as “marked by or containing untrue statements: false”. I’m pretty sure all of us know what a lie is. The definition of delusion…
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Why are they being nice?
There are times when the narcissist is nice, albeit not often. When I say they are nice, I’m talking about the times they’re nice to us, not their flying monkeys or anyone else aside from their victims. But what is nice? To me, it’s when they ask something of you and maybe even include a…
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What You See Is What You Get
Such a broad title for what I really want to discuss today. I’ve written a lot about what a narcissist is, the characteristics and the things to look for. There are a couple of things I want to discuss here today. The first one is why it is usually only the victim that eventually sees…
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Healing and Regaining Ourself
This post is going to deviate a little bit from my other posts thus far. As a victim of narcissistic abuse there are a number of emotional and physical things our bodies and minds go through as we embark on the healing process. The time abused by a narcissist varies and every situation is different,…
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Trauma Responses
Today we’re going to address trauma responses – what they are, why we have them, how to live with them, and how to gain back our freedom from them. We’ve already discussed what trauma is in a previous post. For this post, we’re going to discuss the trauma only from narcissistic abuse…because well, that’s what…
Narcissistic Abuse Survival 