About Me

  • Understanding Gaslighting: A Child’s Experience

    In my past posts I’ve written quite a bit about gaslighting. Today, I’m going to tell you about something that happened last night, and a perfect example of what it is when a narcissist gaslights their own child. First, let’s revisit what gaslighting is. Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse that manipulates the victim…

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  • Understanding Narcissism: Impact on Children

    I couldn’t think of a better title for this post today. Quite a bit has happened recently, and I’m going to write about these events. I’m also going to write about some of the research I’ve done about how a narcissist treats their children, and why. The stories contained in this post are factual, but…

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  • Surviving Narcissism: Navigating Lies and Delusions

    Is it lying or is it being completely delusional? First, let’s look at the definitions of both of these terms. According to the good ol’ Merriam Webster online dictionary, lying is defined as “marked by or containing untrue statements: false”. I’m pretty sure all of us know what a lie is. The definition of delusion…

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  • Why are they being nice?

    There are times when the narcissist is nice, albeit not often. When I say they are nice, I’m talking about the times they’re nice to us, not their flying monkeys or anyone else aside from their victims. But what is nice? To me, it’s when they ask something of you and maybe even include a…

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  • What You See Is What You Get

    Such a broad title for what I really want to discuss today. I’ve written a lot about what a narcissist is, the characteristics and the things to look for. There are a couple of things I want to discuss here today. The first one is why it is usually only the victim that eventually sees…

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  • Using a Child as a Pawn / When a Child Becomes a Victim

    I’m sure there’s a better title than that… but today’s post is going to be about how a narcissist uses their own flesh and blood to get what they want and to make themselves look better, or to make others look bad. I’m going to discuss and share with you a few of the recent…

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  • This post is going to deviate a little bit from my other posts thus far. As a victim of narcissistic abuse there are a number of emotional and physical things our bodies and minds go through as we embark on the healing process. The time abused by a narcissist varies and every situation is different,…

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  • Desperation

    One word that isn’t under the Narcissistic Dictionary is Desperation. Although, Narcissists are incredibly desperate to keep their egos inflated. They will go to the ends of the earth to make themselves look like a saint, when they are quite the contrary. They will spend hours constructing lies and story lines to persuade others that you are the…

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  • What is Lost

    Not a question, but a statement of what we lose when we go through a separation of any sort from a narcissist. There are losses in any divorce or ending of a relationship, sure. In those cases, you usually lose money, some friends and family on your ex’s side, time with your kids due to…

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  • A Victim’s Experience

    A Victim’s Experience… Just a few of the things I have personally and recently experienced.

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